Picture this – I am coming off a long ramp from the Washington DC Beltway towards Rt. 7, heading back to my friends’ home to retrieve the coat I had left behind.  I hear a rumbling sound, and I am just hoping it’s the road surface.

It quit momentarily, but started up again, so I pulled over to investigate.  A FLAT tire.

Thank goodness I wasn’t far from my friends’ home, and they showed up, with my coat, to help me change the tire.

Between the three of us, we got it changed.  A passing motorist stopped to see if he could help, and he was the one who suggested checking the air pressure on the spare, and had the gauge to check it.  Low!  Fortunately, my friend had a battery-operated pump along.

I felt so cared for – blessed with all this timely help, and even fun and camaraderie.

But later, after having my choice to drive a half hour back to get the coat being questioned both by my friend and the mechanic who replaced the tire, I was doing some serious self-questioning.

If I hadn’t gone back, I wouldn’t have run over whatever sliced into my tire, and it wouldn’t have taken 5 hours instead of 2 to get home.  They could have brought or sent me the coat.

Thankfully I had enough self-awareness on the drive home to stay present and focused on enjoying the slower drive back to Richmond.

As I looked at the intensity of the self-doubt and second-guessing of my choices – “You shouldn’t have don’t that!  You should have known better than that!” – I unearthed some old patterns of thinking I know (or should know) how something is supposed to turn out.

Going back, having a flat tire, toddling home, was not on the acceptable list.  But who knows what I might have encountered on the way down I-95 if I had continued on.

I’m recognizing I have a habit of second guessing almost everything I do, and then tend to worry some more whether it was the right thing to do.

Of course, this isn’t a real surprise, given that one of my Divine Coordinates^® is Self-Trust, making it one of my life lessons and opportunities to expand and shift and grow.

Remembering this is what’s underlying the intensity of feelings, I can work my way up from that self-judgment and self-doubt, and move into stillness and then awareness and ultimately remembering I CAN trust myself no matter what it looks like on the surface.

When you know what your Divine Coordinates^® are, you have a much better chance of figuring out what’s going on with those potentially destructive and disruptive patterns.  You have a map for your inner journey and can get back on track much more quickly.

With knowing your DC’s you can make choices more consciously, by asking which option will be most aligned with what will feel good to you.

I would love for everyone to know what their Divine Coordinates^® are so they are fulfilled and sharing their authentic gifts that only they can bring!  That’s why I do this work of mentoring and supporting women so they can Shine their unique light for the rest of us.

If you would like to check out whether this work would make sense to help you to feel more fulfillment and freedom, email me to request an Exploration Session phone call.  Click here to send me an email.

We would go on a journey of looking at what’s going on now, and where you really want to be, so you have clarity on what next step would be right for you.

Whether it’s self-questioning or trying to please others or just feeling stuck and frustrated, please know there are powerful tools to support you on your way to a joy-filled life.

Let’s all remind ourselves to stay present no matter the detours and seeming mis-steps.

Blessings,

Lois

PS That email again is [email protected] for exploring if this work would support you in releasing your self-defeating patterns and habits.

 

Photo credit: By Kurt Nordstrom from Ponder, TX, USA [CC BY 2.0] via Wikimedia Commons