Spring is springing with wild abandon in Richmond, Virginia!  The chartreuse green of new leaves against blue blue sky is stunning… especially for me in the last couple of days since I had cataract surgery on one eye. The other eye will need it in the not-so-distant future. (I know – I’m way too young for this.)

I had no idea what I was missing with that cloudiness in my vision.  Now when I check one eye against the other, and see the dimmer browner quality of what had been my “better eye”, I’m amazed about what I was living with.  A muted, less accurate version of What Is.

Actually, on my face, that had its advantages.  I’m now seeing “details” that I just have to laugh about.  Everyone else could see those wrinkles, but I’ve been blissfully ignorant.

And isn’t this often how we adjust to things that are less than awesome in our lives?

How often do we get used to limited communication, clarity and authenticity in our relationships?

We bustle around in the busy-ness of our days, distracting ourselves with all this stuff to do, places to go, and don’t notice we are getting more disconnected from our partners, friends, family and ourselves… till one day we can no longer ignore it because it’s really hindering how we function.

The warmth is lost, irritations build, and we realize we are miserable.

And that’s the opportunity to wake up – to take a deeper look at what’s happened, what we are really feeling, and to say, “Now what?!”

The choices at that point are some variation of

1. Keep going the way it is, just lower our expectations and suck it up (squint more).
2. Look outside at what we can change – try to get the others to change, or to change the situation: move, find another job or relationship (get new glasses).
3. Look inside and release the blocks and figure out what will serve us better so we can have a new perspective (go through the discomfort of surgery, and get a new lens).

What less-than-optimal relationship or situation comes to mind for you?  Which option do you chose as your next step?

Sometimes awareness and tweaking are all that are called for.  At other times, we need outside help to reach that new vision and perspective.

If you are at one of those “I’ve done all I know to do, and I’m tired of settling” places, email me by clicking here to schedule a phone call to sort out what your options and possibilities are.

I’ll share a powerful process that will help you get clear about what is your best next step.

Here’s to clear vision – inside & out!

Happy Spring!

Lois

PS If you are tired of having limited vision and ready for some clarity, email me at [email protected] to schedule a phone conversation to explore some other options.

 

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